I found this article by Jon Rappoport:
And especially this paragraph:
Entrepreneurship has a counter-intuitive core. The more the enterprise is built to the scale of the original dream, and the less it is compromised, the greater the chances of success
Which also mirrors one of my favorite quotes from Barbara Sher:
If you have a great dream, go for it. Because if you would settle for something less, for the sole reason that you think it will be easier to achieve, you will likely fail even at the lesser dream, simply because you will lack motivation
Whether all this is true or not, is hard to say. What it does bring up for me is a question I have been deeply considering ever since I started Circling, and one of the main topics that I wish to explore in my own groups, both public (Circle Anywhere) and private:
Connection intent vs. Developmental intent
Within circling, I believe that the tension between connection intent and developmental intent is inescapable. Bryan Bayer describes this as the “Yin and the Yang” of circling. His idea (which is also mine) is that Yin (or connection intent) trumps Yang (developmental intent, or self-expression). Both are important, but in the case of a conflict, we go with connection intent.
This could also be framed as:
When and how to do we give to others, and when and how do we receive from them
Naturally this inescapable tension of human relationships will be mirrored in the deep relational practice of Circling.
My desire to form private groups is first to introduce my friends to the practice; and second to circle right up to the edge of developmental intent, but (ideally) not to cross it. It’s a work-in-progress, an ongoing research project. The results have been very powerful for me, as I feel very well-received from the community.
The contrast between the the public groups and private groups has been interesting to me, as well. The public groups are sometimes strangers (although not so much for me anymore), and may not have a universal shared context for circling. As such one has to be cautious about pushing the container. But on the private groups I feel a little frozen in a leadership role and dampening my aliveness. So I am challenged in both types of groups.
I will continue to report here as the investigation unfolds…